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Why Your New Year’s Resolutions Are Failing (Part 1/5): Focus Orientation
Make that commitment deep inside.
I have always been passionate about understanding the reasons why we do what we do. Maybe the real reason we keep our unsatisfying jobs is not because we need to put food on our table-although it surely is one of them, just not the main one-but rather because when we were younger our whole family laughed at us when we said we wanted to be an artist, an engineer, a psychologist or whatever dream job we had in mind at the time. As a result, our beliefs limit us in doing what could potentially fill us with joy every morning.
Who is really behind the wheel? My biggest fear is precisely this: Waking up one day, realizing I wasted my life sleeping on my potential or not seizing opportunities that could have enhanced my life and/or that of others. That fear of regret is not a bad thing. If anything it can make us move in the right direction should we learn how to listen carefully, and adjust course. Trying to understand everything, however, is exhausting. It takes a lot of energy out of us. Energy we cannot use to live a lighter, more spontaneous life.
Besides, how arrogant to try to explain what my brain is not remotely designed to fathom, not even in my wildest dreams? Most probably the French in me, coming to the…
